LSU, fall 1964 - spring 1968 |
Guatemala, summer 1968 |
Penn State Grad. Sch., fall 1968 |
US Army, fall 1968 - fall 1970 |

Elliot Prados was driving his red mustang and I was riding shotgun while Kenny Potter was in the back seat. We came down too fast and the mustang began to slide on the gravel road. Elliot had lost control. Back and forth the car slid but somehow staying on the road. I remember it all in slow motion. As the road followed a stream, ten to twenty feet below, on the left side, the car slid leftward over the embankment.
I passed out as the mustang rolled, landing right side up in the dry stream bed. When I came to, my head was through the windshield and covered in blood, and Elliot and Kenny were nowhere in sight. Elliot later told me that when he saw the blood, he thought I was already dead, so he and Ken climbed out of the wrecked car. Help came quickly and my wounds while bloody were only superficial. The Camp Managers Mr. Rovik and Dr. van den Bold put me in a hospital overnight. It was here that I thought up my mantra "Nothing 'really bad' ever happens to a Stoessell" which I have "thoughtfully" passed on to my son David. I qualified it with 'really bad' because I had missed out on an afternoon of drinking Coors beer. The picture of the wrecked mustang was taken by Tim LaTour of Ville Platte, LA, a good "Cajun" (although he says his ancestors came from France not Nova Scotia) friend throughout my life. Elliot and I are in the picture on the left. I don't know what happened to him in later years.
We stayed at the Hotel Zaculeu in Huehuetenango, run by a German family who had immigrated following World War II. Judy Kessler and Pat Josey, the wives of Steve and Bill, had come with us and we were like a family. I thought the hotel was a wonderful place to operate out of.
In the evening when I came in from the field, I was asked what I wanted to eat and my answer was always "todo" (everything). No matter how much I ate, my weight on a 6 ft 2&1/2 inch frame, dropped from about 185 to 160 pounds, from hiking up and down the hills.
Once we began the field work out of Huehuetenango, we generally needed to hike 2,500 feet down in elevation to reach the bottom of the Rio Cuilo valley and its numerous tributaries that cut through the interior of the field area. So to get back, we had to make that 2,500 ft climb to the road which was a tough hike at the end of a day.
The rivers were usually crossed with rope bridges; although, we forded them if bridges were not available. To get the work done, Bill and I would often camp for several days, setting up a base camp, and splitting up each day to map the surrounding rock outcrops, record data including orientation of beds (strikes and dips), and take rock samples. Every day was an adventure for me, just rounding a bend in the trail and coming upon a waterfall was such a delight. I was often lost and would climb to the top of the nearest ridge and employ steroscopic images of aerial photos to locate myself. The feeling of competence from being able to find a precise location relative to the nearest geomorphic feature or clump of trees was exhilirating. And then there was the never ending sense of history in the area. I once hiked through an isolated village in which the inhabitants looked to be pure European Spanish, living back in the 18th century. I still wonder about the history of that village. One afternoon, I started back late and didn't finish the climb to the road (Pan American Highway) before dark, spending a sleepless, rainy night, wrapped in my pancho, by the trail. Bill was waiting for me early next morning, blowing the horn of the land cruiser, when I topped the hill. A month later, I learned what he feared could have happened to me.


I was falling in love with her, but I knew the age difference would become a problem, and I would soon be sent away to my permanent active duty post. And during that summer, I woke up one night in the barracks with a terrible pain in my side. I had watched my father suffer through kidney stone attacks and guessed I was having one. I drove to the base hospital, checked myself in, and with enough morphine, eventually passed out. The next morning, the stone had shifted and the pain was gone. The surgeon told me the stone was too large to pass and he would have to cut it out. The surgery wasn't bad and afterwards, I went home on convalescent leave and got to see Dad again.
On the way to Fort Dix, I stopped to spend time with Wilma in Georgia and subsequently arrived late at Fort Dix. Everyone in my group who arrived on time was sent to Italy for duty on US Air Force bases. I was sent to Frankfort, West Germany, to be processed for duty on one of the US Army bases. Italy would have been an incredible assignment, but I would not trade it for the time spent with Wilma. She had the sweetest soul of any woman I ever met. She subsequently married Joesph Portman and lived in West Palm Beach in Florida. Sixty year later I found her online obituary. She died in 2019 from complications of a stroke suffered in 2015. Her death shook me and I cried after contacting Joe. I wished that I had been able to tell her goodbye.

As an acting platoon sergeant, my biggest problem was weeding out incompetent people and trading them for other personnel from other platoons. This was a game of musical chairs, relying on the ignorance of other platoon sergeants as to who was worse, their incompetent soldiers or my incompetent soldiers. I remember one trade where I mistook intelligence for competence and suffered from it. Army life attracts people (lifers) who often can not make it on the outside and we had to work around them. The actual repair work of the communication equipment was fun but not difficult because the equipment was built out of modules. Find the bad modules, switch them out with good modules, and everything would be working again.
That fall, as part of a military program with the local public, a hospitable elderly German couple invited me over for dinner each week where I was introduced to such delicacies as beef tartare, i.e., raw beef. They were sweet and kind and tried to make me feel at home in a foreign land. I had previously taken a year of German at LSU and enrolled in an evening German course offered by the Army. Dorothea LaGraff, a statuesque, tall, pretty, very intelligent German blonde was the class instructor. Dorothea introduced me to Siegrid, a German English teacher in the local high school who became my girlfriend and acted as my tour guide. But there wasn't much chance of learning German from her because Siegrid's English was perfect, with the British accent taught in the local schools. Dorothea was already friends with a number of my military friends, and I often went with them in the evenings to her home. We drank wine, smoked weed, and had long discussions of politics and art. I remember the first evening asking Dorothea "Verstehen Sie memories," i.e., Do you understand memories. My good military friend Charles Taplin tapped me on the shoulder and said "Ron, She can speak better English than you."
Dorothea just laughed in delight. She influenced me greatly, opening my eyes to art and German literature (Hermann Hesse, in particular) and introduced me to German girls. She was turning 33 that year, and her inquistive spirit is in me to this day, 46 years later. As a child, Dorothea had survived the fire bombing of Dresden at the end of the war when the train she was on was diverted by chance away from the City. Her father had not been a Nazi supporter and was picked by the Allies to serve as a judge after the war in some of their trials, a not popular civic duty with the German people. Like me, many of her American friends remained friends after their discharge. She was a pharmacist and her husband Dieter was a travel agent, and Dorothea traveled everywhere. For years Dorothea would fly to New York City, San Francisco, etc, to visit friends, go to plays and shop. (I never knew when she would pop up!) Her home was decorated in the Bauhaus tradition (form follows function) with Charles Eames and Barcelona chairs, an arc floor lamp, etc, complete with a zebra skin rug on the floor. I will admit to smoking considerable amounts of hash while lying on that zebra-skin, i.e., eventually the zebra would get up and gallop. On those evenings I sometimes felt like I was living "Easy Rider."
In the late night, we would make our way back to the Fiori Kaserne, climb over the high iron fence and roll into our bunks, confident that Uncle Sam would take care of us in the morning. This wasn't a bad life for a guy turning 23, almost as good as college.
Dad had recently had a Grand Mal seizure in his office in the Acadia Savings and Loan. He was obviously ill and undergoing tests, but we didn't realize how serious his conditon was. He would live only another 5 months after their wedding. Karl and Marilyn decided to get married in West Germany near Rosenheim, Karl's hometown, in a very picturesque little Alpine community near the Austrian border where Karl's parents were building a retirement home there. 

